Today I would like to write something for world’s most important character in every one’s life. When I say everyone’s life, especially, I would like to tell gentlemen's because, it should reach to the all men. Yes, it’s about the women, I am writing today, and no doubt
every one of us is having women in our life since our birth, even I would say before taking birth we are closely connected to women in her womb.Everybody writes on women’s like most respected women in everybody's life is our mother, successful women as heard and declared by all society likes 1st pilot, 1st minister, 1st athlete in any game,1st IAS, IPS and so many. Because, traditionally women were not working or going out to earn money, for which only men are responsible as they were underestimating the power and talent of women and given the status of housewives with the assumption wives are only for cooking food, taking care of home & children only.
Somehow, I still feel the housewives are not that much appreciated as they deserve. Because today’s working women's percentage is higher than previous generations. Today 23.3 percent of women in India participate in the labour force, while men are three times more likely to be working. It means around 80 – 85 % of women are housemakers. If we see today's generation, maximum girls are at least graduated by their parents, on which basis they can get job in any company and be independent.
I am an HR professional and having 10 years of experience in industry, getting good salary, having good position in company and good rapport with my connections internal as well as external stakeholders as a part of my job. Does it mean I am greater than my wife? Perhaps, few of you might say yes, as we are working and fulfilling our family’s needs. I have some different view on it and strongly would say housewives are greater than us. Rather I would say they are simply great women. I was sharing it with my friend, but he was saying no, I am not agreeing with your opinion as we are working so hard in our job and daily we have new challenges in front of us, we are struggling a lot than housewives.
I was just listening him, I am also a working professional and can understand his view. I just told him to bear with me for 5 minutes only and listen my view. He said okay tell me.
Housewives wake-up before us and making lunch box for us, so our day must go with happiness with tasty food. Once we go office she starts preparation for child’s bathing, making him ready for school then she sends him to school, and follow-up all timeliness till he comes home safely. If I start telling, there is huge list of her tasks, and we can't even know few of them, as we never seen in that view.
Let's relate her task with our daily job. I asked my friend to tell me your challenges in a day. He quickly started telling big words like, I need to manage my boss/manager which is very critical. If we don’t complete task we may not face him. We have multiple tasks at a time and need to follow timelines, need to ensure first time right in quality perspective, need to achieve daily targets, and so many.
I listened and just gave him my Explanation.
Homemaking and other domestic works have long contributed to the social and economic well-being of any society. I would say Housewives have served as the managers of household operations, taking control and care of the home. I just illustrate it in industrial/ professional language:
My wife at the age of 32 is having 20 year of experience. My friend laughed and said are you joking? How is it possible? No one can believe it...
Housewives are doing their jobs FTR (First time right). How? My wife started cooking at the age of 12 and at that time she was in 7th class. As you know that, all girls are not permanent in mothers’ home, after marriage they have to move to in-laws’ home. Traditionally housewives must know cooking, hence all parents start training their girls at an early age. Accordingly, my wife was given task as a trainee cook, and she was supposed to stay with her mom to observe and learn. Being quick learner, she learned the cooking and became perfectionist.
She maintains FTR in all item's cooked by her. Frankly I don't remember any variation in the food cooked by her.
Procurement:
We all are great working professional, we presume that we are greater in all aspects compared to our wives. If you want to see how great negotiator your wife is, accompany her when She goes to purchase vegetables, groceries, etc. I am sure every one of us will believe that wives are good negotiators.
Planning:
We are doing planning related to our 8 hours job, whereas wives are planning for the day, since wake up to sleeping time. Household material purchase, children’s schools planning, financial planning for all these things. And most big aspect is that the ladies must balance and take care of everybody's ego's in our family. And I am pretty sure that they are doing it very nicely.
Management skill:
Society already has given the status of great Manager to all mothers as her management skill and planning is great one. Here I think no need to express more separately as all housewives are mostly playing same role. Managing household, care taking of family members, fulfilling every once needs at home.
Despite their important role in a society, they are always underestimated, most housewives are undervalued by their partners, and by society at large. With women competing men at economic and social levels, stay-at-home wives are valued less. Housework has always been sore spot for all feminists and for all the stay-at-home mothers; it has never gained them adequate respect.
Women are the key to quality of life in the family. The varieties of role the women assume in the family are those of wife, leader, administrator, manager of family income and last but not the least important the mother. Despite highly educated, our wives are sacrificing their ambitions and passion for our child’s development and better schooling.
Hence, how can we help our wives to support and fill them equally important part of our life and society as well???
Respect:
Respect their work and let them feel managing house is equally important to work in any organization. Perhaps it’s more than that if we compare with the sacrifices of women. Whenever you get a free time, please help them in their daily work, and make them realized as the work they are doing is hard and skilful so that they will feel as the house work is also has very good dignity.
Spend quality time:
Even though you are tired, under stress of office work, please don’t carry your office mindset to home. Leave all this at office and whenever you reach home, have a fresh mindset and spend at least 30 minutes with your family and have only the discussion about their day agenda and how the spent with good as well as bad movements. I know we all are having lot of work pressures in office and sometimes we do struggle to balance work life balance. We don’t have choices while working in any organization. It doesn’t mean we should leave job. Plan your work and family times in advance. You have to manage your work and must spend time with family at home, and sometimes take them for outing.
Celebrations:
I am not talking about festivals celebrations, because for this all preparation is done by our wives only. I am talking about women’s day, Mother’s Day, rose day, chocolate day, friendship day, and most important is their birthday, wedding anniversary etc. We are celebrating all this movement for all working women’s in our company. Being HR professional, I would like to tell you all, we are making budgets for women’s engagement those are working in our organization. We are trying our best to keep them engaged and retain for long-term with our organization as a valuable part of it.
This all we do for working women’s.
Do we have any planned budgets, planned activities and celebrations for our wives as women at our home? Please do the same at home. I am sure they would be the happiest women if we do such plans. Perhaps, women will be started feeling proud as being women.